Therapy for worth and control
Here and now, we are led to believe that we need to produce our value, and for that, we are taught war tactics.
Here and now, we are led to believe that we need to produce our value, and we are taught war tactics.
In adapting to western human society, we need to find our place and authentic power by affirming our talents and discovering our original voice. Contemporary culture suggests that these paths are activated isolated and exclusively to meet individual needs. Not necessarily in a soul-nourishing way or supported by the community.
There is a war going on.
Today’s therapy and self-development tools act on goals, bringing tools to plan, achieve, and effectively produce value. We transform familiar beliefs and issues within this perspective by finding the guilty ones, those who were not present, who did not listen or embrace us when we needed them most. We travel through memories and traumas, vulnerabilities, and sensitivities.
Survey the horizon, looking for enemies.
These methods, totally adapted to Western culture, generally teach us about control. Its benefits of winning the will and discipline, of not being vulnerable, and teaching us to be strong. Using emotion control that collapses our soul’s needs, leading us to be always effective and productive. We thus learn to surgically approach all areas of our life, compartmentalizing all its aspects.
War is near.
But above all, we need to prove our worth, so we try to control the small details of our lives. We learn to gather weapons and conquer our place, time, and all the little bits of existence. We are taught to subdue ourselves. Furthermore, we can only prove our worth by exercising authority over the organic and unique life systems (usually taken from nature, others, or time itself).
Can you hear the enemies climbing the walls?
When our value is finally affirmed and recognized in society, we must demonstrate it. We must be able to express it assertively and keep it visible to others. That is why we place flags on the conquered lands, controlling the captured space, and stating that we need to protect our methods, perspectives, positions, or relationships.
We believe in the basic human need to conquer everything to feel safe because we do not know the place out of control and conquest. This culture translates the ancient and visceral need for value and attachment into a claim to authority, a demand to dominate the other, subduing it to our will. We are led to believe that this is natural and normal.
Are you ready for combat?
We continue to dig trenches, isolating ourselves. Building stone walls to defend our sense of value and attacking anyone who does the same. We patrol the boundaries of our social space, worrying about competition, plans, movements, and supposed invasions. We watch the horizon for threats, trying to keep the conquered territory safe.
Can you hear the cries of war?
We must remember how to be fully present here with all we are, our losses, sorrows, joys, talents, or sorrows. Therapeutic methods must provide ways of generously incarnating the various inherently valuable multidimensional “selves.”
How high is your wall?
Most of these methods are just forms of fracture and destruction of our real and inherent value, causing us to forget who we are in the grand scheme of things. Our culture’s instruments are often locked into a narcissistic world vision, where our narrative and needs are the most critical pursuits, blindly neglecting our fundamental relational existence.
Is there a crack in the wall?
Precisely because the culture in which we live strips away everything that has inherent value, it demands that we continue to become worthy, always pressing to be visible to live. It is an impoverished society that does not recognize the subtleties of the real value of life. It fragments, normalizes, and constrains us into a unidimensional and monolithic form — making us blindly follow linear timetables, forgetting the cycles or deep membranes of thought that touch everything that exists—ignoring that the whole sacred body is not to be measured or compared but lived as a temple of soul and spirit.
We need to recover the head-spirit, the soul-heart, the instinct-gut, the expressive-hands, and the walking-feet, for all the fundamental weavers of our lives must function in unison.
We must remember how we relate so that the inner work is not done wholly to gather power, using it to conquer ourselves or others. Living in relative reality, we do not need to defeat the enemy, for we only destroy, isolate, and imprison ourselves.
Can you see the walls crumbling?
By conquering our thoughts or emotions and controlling our bodies or lives in complex surgical ways, we normalize and domesticate who we are, sectioning our ancient and natural multidimensional being into something that fits perfectly with contemporary society’s norms.
Let’s recover the core, the original center of wisdom, which is wild and free and does not need to exercise control. It just needs to flow and be entirely here and now.
